The thing about trying to manage other people's lives is that it is an impossible job because their lives belong to them, not us. And any advice we would give or decisions we would make come from our perspective, would work for us but would probably not work for them. It is rare that anyone takes my advice on anything anyway! Sometimes they ask for it and I offer something up but generally they do something entirely different :-)

Anyway, that is where the frustration lies ... trying to manage something that isn't possible or ours to do in the first place! Been there ... many times ...