A thing Bo Burnham said that he learned from owning his anxiety, is that everyone goes around looking as if they are ok. He could watch videos of his performances when he knows he was exploding internally with a panic attack, but watching the video even his own family couldn't tell that he wasn't ok. Everyone looks ok, but everyone has a complicated emotional script going on inside them whether they own it or not.

Polarising a relationship into people who control and people who emote doesn't solve anything.