I would put yourself in their shoes. They gave you the money for a specific reason and that was not to fritter it away on yourself.

I have been avoiding giving people money for this very reason. I have unwillingly financed holidays when my understanding the money I gifted was for daily needs like food and rent. I can tell you I was very angry when these people spent my money on unnecessary things. If they found themselves in a position of no longer needing that money, the responsible thing to do would be to return it or save it for the next crisis. Instead, I will now buy things like food, provide gift cards for tuition, text books, or pay someone's utility bill/rent directly. I really think it irresponsible to be flitting away someone else's money on things that were not intended. It is perfectly understandable why they would judge you harshly and be very ticked off. They were of the understanding this money would go towards the necessities you were apparently doing without.

Okay, so that has been my rule of thumb - until recently. I broke my rule when my daughter (31) called in a panic about being stuck and being unable to pay for tuition, rent, and repairs to her car. So I transferred her money - several thousands of dollars to cover it. And now I see her weeks later posting selfies all over social media of her out socializing, attending parties, going out for dinners, and just this weekend evidence she is at an expensive entertainment expo. I am livid as that is not what I intended for her to spend my money on.

You and she have an obligation to spend that money on what it was earmarked for.