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Old Apr 28, 2019, 08:44 AM
Angie84 Angie84 is offline
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Originally Posted by FearLess47 View Post
This makes sense. I think sometimes there is a misconception that we have to "kill off" or banish parts of ourselves. Perhaps not. Perhaps we can seek to understand why they are there to begin with...the purpose they've served. And then see if there are other ways to find outlets for pain, that support the whole system a bit better. So that maybe Viktor can become an active part of your life without inflicting pain. Maybe it is possible that Viktor has lots of other contributions to make that have yet to be discovered, that are strengthening and bolstering, rather than destructive.

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Are you sure you're not my psychologist?? Lol. That's exactly what she says. Viktor is very controlling, and some what of a bully and I need to be able to find the courage to stand up to him. I've recently come out of quite a controlling relationship, and having controlling people in my life has been a constant since a young age and so a need for someone for me to 'obey' has developed and I think that's why I'm scared and feel unable to deal with things just now. I guess it's probably why Viktor is so strong just now.