It doesn't seem like you have a problem with being attracted to "the nice guy" instead of the jerk, it seems that is your problem though and it's holding you back from recognizing that you have completely different values at the core. That's a relationship that cannot work well long-term. You have to have similar and compatible values, which you do not. He may be very nice and treats you well, so that seems to be blinding you a bit. Everything you described describes opposing values. Plus, he sounds boring if you cannot have deeper or more interesting conversations. Sorry to say it, but from my own viewpoint, I don't see how it could work long-term. But at least you got out of a pattern of being attracted to jerks! That's a big step.