The best dating advice I ever received was this: the signs you ignore in the beginning of the relationship WILL be the reason you leave the relationship later. You always KNOW right away who is good and who is bad for you. Don't ignore that.

And to answer your question: you're totally settling. for the wrong guy. reread your post. you wrote down 8 ways he's incompatible with you. your post reads as you are trying to justify why you stay with a man who makes you unhappy, who judges your choices as "wrong" b/c he doesn't agree with them, who forces you to set aside your beliefs and your values, b/c he thinks his are more important than yours.

I think you know you're settling with this wrong guy as your romantic partner, but you are trying to justify staying. Why?

Nothing about your post indicates that he compromises for your beliefs or values, or you vice versa. Not 'caring' that he likes the expensive lifestyle and you don't, is your way of settling, of justifying 'why' you are settling; your 'i don't care' is concession that your beliefs and values aren't as important as his are, and so you put yourself second so that he will stay with you. That's how your post reads to me.

I usually only need 1 way a guy's incompatible with me before I walk away from dating him. And I spent two decades settling for the wrong guys, so not anymore.

Too many people settle with the wrong partner, so that they don't have to be alone. But that reasoning will come back to haunt them in ways they didn't foresee. Either, their partner will emotionally or verbally neglect or abuse them, or will physically abuse them, cheat on them, steal from them, there's countless ways that the wrong partner can harm the partner who chooses to knowingly "settle." I read stories in the news all the time about these scenarios.

There are multiple reasons you should NEVER settle in a relationship.

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