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Originally Posted by susannahsays
I feel odd giving you this information, since I think it's likely to upset you. However, I don't believe in infantilizing people, and when I personally ask people what they think, I want them to be honest. That said, the therapists I worked with at a previous job would not have been of a mindset where empathy for the client would be uppermost in their minds if the client did what you did. The empathy would be for their fellow therapist, whom they would see as a victim. Their own fears of having their privacy violated would be aroused, and compassion and empathy for the client just isn't something I can see even occurring to them. They wouldn't assume you meant no harm, they would assume you were intensely infatuated and that such an obsession could lead to harm. Essentially, they would have felt very threatened and "reacted." I have no idea if the therapists I have known are representative of therapists in general.
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I must say that I agree with this entire post.
I think it is more important for you to work on finding ways (with a therapist) to avoid this type of behavior from happening again. Otherwise, you may find yourself in legal trouble.
In fact, I would forget about trying to get in contact with the ex-therapist; otherwise, she may feel like you really don't understand the seriousness of your behavior. Also in trying to contact her, it could lead to her feeling like she is being harrassed. Maybe that is why your new therapist doesn't think you should connect with her again.
I am not saying that you are trying to harrass her. I am just stating that your ex-t may take it that way.
I know it must be hard to deal with the loss. I think CBT might help.
I wish you the best of luck.