Exactly Emily. Just because a guy is "nice" to you, doesn't mean he's compatible with you for a relationship. So, because he's "nice" that means you automatically should date him? I've known lots of "nice" guys who were so wrong for me, it wasn't even funny. Yet I dated them because they were "nice" to me at first. But, I ignored the red flags that they showed me, which were the reasons why the relationship ended.

You've only dated him for 3 months. Already you have 8 red flags that you listed. When you're with the right guy, there simply are no flags. Zero. Even the superficial reasons aren't flags, if the guy is compatible.

And I agree with Emily. That whole "spark" thing is online dating propaganda for online dating websites. There is chemistry but no such thing as a spark.

I'd review your 8 reasons and look inside your heart and really hold yourself accountable for your choice here. If he doesn't even compromise with you about your values or beliefs, how can you justify that he's "nice" to you? Nice guys don't expect their partner's values or beliefs to be secondary to their own. They don't view them as negative on their lifestyle choices.

For example, I am an Atheist. I made the mistake of dating a religious guy. It was a mistake, because while I showed respect for his religious beliefs, he constantly evangelized to me about how I need God in my life. I couldn't take it anymore, so I dumped him. No man is going to tell me what my spiritual beliefs should be...ever.

Another example. I dated a musician. His first priority was playing his jazz music with his various jazz trios. In fact, such a priority, that our dates consisted of me going to his gigs with him, sitting at the bar, lonely, bored, and miserable, watching him perform and flirt with all the women in the room and then waiting around for him to stop networking and socializing that stopped around 2 a.m. On my birthday, he took me to a crappy bar where he had a gig. That was after he took me to a restaurant where he left me sitting alone at my table, while he left me to go talk to a blonde woman he used to date. No cake. no thank you for being my girlfriend speech. I forgot to add, he gave me a stupid book on yoga aphorism, that wasn't even wrapped. I don't even do yoga, nor mentioned it as an interest to him. So I have no idea why he gave me that book. I threw it out that day. It was one of the worst birthdays I ever had. And it was all about him and his needs.

Those are two examples of how settling is a colossal waste of time. Those two guys seemed like they'd be great because at first they were "nice" to me. Uh-uh. Didn't work out that way.

Just because he's "nice" to you, doesn't guarantee he's the best fit. It doesn't even sound like you like him from what you wrote. Your post sounds more like justifications and complaints. That's a sign that you know you're settling but for some reason you're trying to talk yourself out of settling, b/c you either don't like being alone, or I don't know the reason.