Interesting responses here.

I have dated a closeted gay man before and I don't get that vibe. Besides, I'm so PRO same gender loving that if he was, he could join my already LONG list of gay male friends!

So I did try to talk to him about my concerns (which I've done in the past), and he really seems to TRY to see my point of view, but underneath it all, he doesn't GET it.

His fix for the communication: "Would it be helpful if we came up with a list of topics to discuss..." (seriously)? He even commented that his "quietness" has caused him issues in the past.

He said the religion thing doesn't bother him, but it bothers ME. He misses church if I stay over on a Saturday night (despite me offering to leave when he leaves for church), and I wake up to him streaming the service online, and he seems to miss not being there physically. I don't want him to feel the need to choose between me and his supreme being.

..and yes, I'm SHOULDING all over myself. No matter how nice, we are fundamentally different which is a shame. He is WONDERFUL boyfriend material... just not for me.