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Originally Posted by divine1966
Well I wouldn’t focus on superficial stuff like facial hair of clothes, that could be changed over time. I also don’t think you should judge him for making good money. You mentioned that money isn’t important to you and you don’t want to have well paid job yet you don’t object to a possibility of him supporting you. It sounds hypocritical
What I would have a problem with him not talking. What’s up with not talking...
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Another...interesting response Divine. Please read again. I don't have a problem with having a well paying job. Mine pays quite well but comes in way under "market" price for positions in a more corporate environment. HE suggests getting paid what I'm worth. I, on the other hand, am perfectly happy with supporting the mission of the non-profit for which I work and devote more UNPAID time to their philanthropic endeavors.
...and where have I indicated that I want or need anything outside of NON TANGIBLE support from this guy? I'm perfectly self-sufficient...
As my post indicates, he looks a bit baffled when we walk into a store and I don't stop to browse clothes, shoe or purse racks (BLECK). He says "I'll pay for whatever you pick out", and I decline because I'm so not into that. I thrift when needed. The only time I shop is if there's a need or an occasion
... and I put the beard and clothes last because those aren't necessarily deal breakers. Maybe if we had more in common FUNDAMENTALLY, it would be easier to deal with the silly superficial stuff like clothes and facial hair.
... as for the not talking. I have no idea. He's super intelligent and cerebral (which was an initial draw for me). I think he just likes to hang out in his own head...