The fact that you have a list of things that you're just not impressed by, and even are not happy about tells me that you're putting "practical" thoughts about this guy over actual connection. I don't know if you're settling or not I can't say but I can say that you really sound like you're thinking everything about dating a person ought to be about what they can bring to the table in practical terms and seem to be overly focused on that.

What I believe is true in any relationship is that even if on paper someone you're involved with as a friend or more intimately looks great, none of it matters if there is no real connection. If this is a new relationship and someone you just started seeing and the list of items that bug you are already easy to write down, it means there probably isn't enough there to overlook those things.

Just my thoughts.