I hate the word transference. it seems to me that its just a fancy term that means, "your in therap so your crazy, therefore its not really happening, its all fake, and the feelings you are experiencing MUST be due to someone else in your life." I personally think thats crap. Just because they are a "therapist" means that the feelings that come up are not true? It has to be because of someone else? What if i met someone on the street and didn't know they were a therapist, would my feelings still be real?

So some say its because of the therapeutic relationship. It's one sided. The feelings you have toward your therapist couldn't possibly be real because...you don't know them, right?

I don't buy it. No, i don't know the intimate personal details of my therapist's life. But i know enough about her to be able to say, i like her as a person. i like her personality. I enjoy her company, and if we met under different circumstances, we would be friends. I don't need to know personal things like her first date experience to be able to say I love her.

I hate the boundaries. And i hate transference. I think it could all be done in real life circumstances. I think the therapist could be a "real" person, and still be able to help. I think my problems would surface either way. I don't need a "blank slate". As a matter of fact, I need a human. If i needed a blank slate, i could talk to my wall for an hour each week. Seriously, screw therapy. I want Humanapy.

It's all a big, fake, pre-determined mess.

what do you think?