Whoa, that trigger thing is intense. I'm sorry you had to go through that. I'm not to forgiveness yet, but it's not a concept I necessarily think is very important. For me, there was a whole layer of anger that I had no idea existed but that I needed to feel before I could come to a more nuanced understanding of why my parents failed in the ways they did. It helped a lot to talk about parenting with my T and what was and wasn't okay. I think part of that process involves having somebody validate the negative emotions before you can get to understanding and having compassion for your parents' limitations. But forgiveness in the face of people who haven't apologized, made amends, or even tried to understand seems fairly hollow to me.