Maybe your bf just didn't know what to say. Most of the people in my life just don't know what to say. My parents ignore it, unless I have to go to the hospital. Friends talk around it. My Therapist (T) doesn't even have much to say about it. I don't think it's about being too old to do something, it's about being too distressed that emotional resources can't cope. Try not to beat yourself up about having harmed yourself. That only makes it worse. HUGS Kit