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Originally Posted by golden_eve
Thank you SO much!!! I am very impressed that you are so self aware as a malignant narcissist yourself and I must say it is most admirable to see you helping me in this way... I am very proud of you and I don’t even know you!!!!
And your insights help tremendously!
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You’re very welcome. I’ve been living with this condition since well, forever, I know myself and what I’m capable of. I also quite frankly have a distaste for other narcissists most of the time...
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He is malignant because I experienced gaslighting, blame shifting, control and verbal and emotional abuse tactics, emotional manipulation and lies throughout our relationship. It was most toxic for me. Argh.
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That’s a lot to deal with, it’s no wonder it was so toxic to you. I’m glad you got away from him and that “relationship”. It’s clear to me that he never truly loved you.
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I’m just curious to know though: WHY would he reveal to my fiancé that he had lied to me about not watching porn while we were together? He probably knew my fiancé would tell me this, so what was his purpose? To upsets me? To enrage me? All it did was make HIM look bad in my eyes. And lowered my opinion of him even further! Lol. So I don’t get his motives for doing that?
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Frankly he doesn’t strike me as very bright, lol. As for why? He wanted to hurt you as a means to get you back under his control. It’s really as simple as that. Though, he clearly had no idea what he was doing... what an idiot. As I said, you deserve better.
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And yes my fiancé is awesome. I’m so glad he told me and was open with me about that.
And the medium? I know he went to see one. So that wasn’t made up. But he’s mentioned giving me the session recording like three times now. It does seem like a manipulative ploy to reel me in.
The good news? I didn’t show him that he enraged me. He doesn’t know at all how upset he made me. He knows I was mildly upset about it. So it’s good he doesn’t think he has control over my emotions. At least not that much.
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It is all about trying to manipulate you, what a moron. I’d use stronger expletives but there’s a cuss word filter on here, what a shame, heh!
I’m glad you didn’t let it show that he enraged you as much as he did. That’s good for you and bad for him, he needs to get lost.