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Old Apr 30, 2019, 12:09 PM
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I am not surprised that therapists have a higher divorce rate. While I do think many get into the profession due to their own issues, I also think the profession itself likely puts stress on a marriage. Listening to people and "connecting" with them all day is exhausting even for the most social of individuals. I have read comments on the psychotherapy sub from many therapists expressing how they just want quiet time when they get home. I imagine this would be even harder for therapists who are introverts. I personally enjoy plenty of alone time as an introvert, and if I were a therapist, I would be too emotionally spent after work to connect with a partner. I also wonder how many of them have trouble not slipping into therapist speak sometimes in their personal lives where it is not appropriate. If my partner were a therapist and they said something to me using therapist phrasing or lingo, I would likely find it condescending. There is also the issue of jealousy to consider. I think it is quite likely that some partners of therapists find the fact that their partner spends so much time listening to others' secrets and being exposed to their private emotions rather... I'm not sure what the word I'm looking for is. But I do think there could be some jealousy, especially if the therapist partner isn't very emotionally available due to being burned out from work.
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