I've been in a marriage without communication for 32 years. I kept tolerating it & tolerating it. I finally came to a point where I realize that the relationship wasn't there from the beginning & it was something I should have gotten out of probably before I even got married (I was having second thoughts then).

It took my Mothers death, selling her house & buying my farm in Kentucky (a move from California) to realize that I couldn't live with him around me anymore. I have been back & forth to California since I purchased my farm last May. It has become increasingly clear that divorce is the only answer....doing it over the miles won't be easy....but it's my only answer to sanity. The straw that broke this marriage was when I got a certified letter from the IRS about back taxes that were due within 10 days....the IRS had contacted us (my husband I found out got the letter in May) last March & he ignored it completely & not only that, but he said nothing to me about it.....luckily, the mail had been forwarded to my farm for Christmas when we were all here (until I kicked him back to California mid January). Lack of communicating will never allow for any kind of relationship & there is no point in trying to make someone communicate when they just won't. It ends up being a pointless situation that one just can't win.

I have been the one that has found my way back to my Christianity.....God is giving me the strength to go through everything that I'm dealing with right now & slowly, I'm seeing that his guidence is toward a divorce......even though it wouldn't be something that you would expect through God. You might find that God is guiding you away from this relationship also....& that you can't force something that isn't there just because it's what you really would like it to be. Sometimes we really have to look at the reality of the situation & see it for what it really is & not what we wish it was....so that we can know how to deal with it & when to work with it, or end it.

I hope you can find the answers in your heart so that you know what you are doing is the right thing for you & the relationship.

Honestly, without communication, there is no relationship in the first place.....but accepting that isn't easy.

Sabby has given some really good input & so have others.....I hope that you are able sort through your own heart & finally hear the real message that exists in your relationship.
Debbie