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Old May 01, 2019, 06:35 AM
Anne2.0 Anne2.0 is offline
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I get that thing about sitting by his feet; I used to long for that pretty profoundly.

Pushing people away is a choice, even if it is reactive. I try to intentionally modulate the distance between us when I feel afraid of being too close. I might stay rooted where I am or take a step or two back, but I don't push away. My T used to model this at the beginning of sessions when I complained his chair was too close to mine. Thereafter he would ask gently if his chair was in an ok place, until I told him to knock it off.

I would check your perceptions that he "wants" you to be angry or anything else. Sounds like mindreading or distorted perceptions. My guess is he wants you to be okay with however you feel and think.
Thanks for this!
Omers