What are you even talking about? You clearly didn't even read my original post.

Thanks sarahsweet. That sucks that your dad died so young without creating a will to ensure you would be able to take his things afterward. Sorry to read that his girlfriend took his belongings away from you.

I will look into what my "free" options are with regard to filing reports. I know there are several other DHS forms I can fill out on behalf of my mother as the authorized drop person (I had to fill out a form to get that title).

It's basically my sister trying to take control away from me -- she's always been that way. That's always been the interpersonal dynamic between us growing up.

She finally agreed to. She can't drive b/c if she is given her car keys, she crashes her car. So now she goes into the parking garage and sits in her car and smokes. It's so bad, that if you walk near her car, you will start coughing nonstop.

I told my sister, I will do whatever it takes to get mom into assisted living before I move out July 1st. And if no spots are available by then anywhere, that my sister will be responsible for footing the bill for her groceries, and have to cook her meals and clean her apartment (she won't cook for her or clean her apartment; she has 3 kids of her own and her full time job supports her family, b/c her husband while a nice guy, can't hold down a job to save his life and they have more debt than I do).

Thanks Tisha. It is a slow motion train wreck for sure. My sister seized control of our mother's finances shortly after our father died in the early 1990s. I just learned this from my mother yesterday. So, very scheming on her part as my sister was only 19 at the time our dad died.

My sister has POA control over my mother's bank account, is the executor of her will, pays her rent, etc. Our mother's life insurance policy is only worth $100K and I think that's the carrot for my sister -- she wants to use $90K of that to wipe out some of her family's debt, probably use the rest for recreational use after our mother passes away. I think that's why she did it -- to gain access to our mother's money.

Now she's saving my texts and emails, so she can paint a negative picture of me and have proof. I'm sure that's why she does it. So that's why I call her and record our phone conversations. Lying for my sister is as natural as breathing is.

It will take the county up to 30 days to approve or reject our mother for medical assistance coverage, which is the way she gets access to the elderly waiver, which is how she can get a reduced rent rate for assisted living.

If her application gets rejected, I will appeal it, which means a phone call with a judge and a county social worker and I will not include my sister in that phone call b/c she and I would just argue and that would open another can of worms against me.

Last resort - I tell my sister that our mother either moves in with her family, or we get one of my sister's last surviving siblings to foot some of the rent bill for an assisted living place, b/c neither her sister or brother will let her live with them in their own homes. My mom's sister is retired, and her brother is retired. They live in different states, but don't want to take care of her like I am, so they refuse to let her move to live with them.

I will tell my aunt and uncle, "fine. you can pay your sister's assisted living rent then" if her medical assistance application gets rejected and my appeal gets rejected. By July 1st, I will be moving out and hopefully this situation will be resolved by then.

As for my sister and I -- as the kids say these days, "I have zero F's to give" about her being a manipulative liar, and I want to get as far away as possible from her, although I will miss seeing her teenagers (as I know she will cut me off from their birthdays, and other holidays, now that we are estranged from each other). She is a terrible person, and I have to find a way to emotionally grieve and recover from losing my family system, which was toxic and dysfunctional to begin with. I know some celebrities have estranged themselves from their families and have built a support system of friends as family, so I will try to do that, while I go to therapy sessions to talk through this horrible experience. I made it out the other end when I estranged myself from my horrible brother, and even kept strong boundaries with my mother and sister who slammed me for it.

Thanks MickeyCheeky. I appreciate your support.