“It will take the county up to 30 days to approve or reject our mother for medical assistance coverage, which is the way she gets access to the elderly waiver, which is how she can get a reduced rent rate for assisted living.”

Is your mother of sound mind? Does she agree with you doing this? I am not even attempting to do anything on behalf of my mom because she would just fight me on it. Nope, just sitting back and watching the crash. The only solution my family wants is for ME to be the patsy by financially supporting and physically taking my mother in to live with me...but I have drawn boundaries, and this is the underlying cause of the huge falling out I had with all of them a few months ago. While we are not estranged, the relationships are no longer the same. I keep my distance. I see it for what it is now.

If the whole family truly wants what’s best for your mother, I’m sure it will all work out.