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Originally Posted by Lemoncake
I don't think forgiveness is something that happens until it happens IF it happens at all and it's not something that can be forced. You should get to decide on your own goals, and I totally understand the idea of not living up to his his version of you which is creating the same issue with your mother. I don't like him telling you that you may have been difficult to raise.
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I agree that forgiveness can’t be forced. You have to be in a certain place to be able to do it.
I think the difficult child to raise bit is not the therapist’s opinion about LT, but suggesting that LT’s mother may have felt that way.
(I speak as someone who realized a while ago that I was a difficult child to raise, especially from my father’s perspective. It is a useful realization and it does help with my understanding of both him and myself. But not everyone may find it helpful.)