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Originally Posted by Bill3
It sounds like you experienced abuse, but not from your family. 
The abuse you experienced caused you to retreat and ultimately become lonely.
Then the loneliness led you to act in a co-dependent manner.
So abuse -> withdraw -> lonely -> act co-dependent -> attract more abuse
How accurate is the above? |
Yeah, that's pretty accurate. What I could add to that is that I didn't help myself much with overcoming this. In the early part of my life (15 to around 26) I was very angry, emotionally disturbed and antisocial. I was consumed by shame and anxiety for the longest time. As I grew older, I socialised; in a large part by developing strong spiritual beliefs (not religious).
I was searching around and I found this article. It explains my nature accurately regarding the most recent relationship that has caused me harm.
BPD and the Nice Guy Personality Type - The Nicola Method