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Originally Posted by divine1966
Hugs.
I know it’s OT but you don’t need to marry into wealth to get spousal support. My husband is RN, he has a nice income but it’s not wealth. He pays his ex 1k a month. We have 4 more years of it.
The reason being they were married close to 30 years and she almost never worked. Towards the end of their marriage she refused to get even part time job.
She wanted alimony until SS age but judge gave her limited number of years. My husband has been RN only last few years of their marriage, prior to that he always struggled supporting her and two kids on a pretty low income. Judge didn’t care. Spousal support was awarded based on what he was making at the time of divorce. So one doesn’t need to be married to wealth to collect alimony
Didn’t mean to hijack this thread. But people sometimes assume that only wealthy pay alimony. Nope, if you work and they don’t, you will pay if judge decides
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I was only married 8 years. And there was no way staying the extra 2 years would have kept both sanity and safety. At that, it would be 6 of one, half a dozen of the other with offsetting child support or alimony. Had been a stay at home then picked up a part time job just to open up a small savings account as what was his was his not what's mine is ours towards that tail end with him. As I check the balance of what was in arreas with child support, it's at least gone down a few grand as he's been back to an on the books paying job instead of whoever in that former job scenario decided under the table was a good thing those couple of years that this household went without seeing a dime.
I get that I generalized a lifestyle regarding alimony wasn't trying to paint you under the pish posh life that others had judged you on. But I really didn't marry wealth nor did I want to. Naively believed that a modest man would be a better suit for me. Which on some levels is true. Forgive me, I stumbled upon a photo recently of him while digging through my own archives for my uncles desire to pull together a video collage. Was better times for my exh back then for sure. Addictions aged him something fiercely.