yeah...mine doesn't give me a choice either... he won't let me leave unless i show him... he also won't let me get away with shrugging my shoulders when he wants to talk about it... he is very clear that he will do what he needs to do to keep me safe... when i have to show him i feel really exposed... but in the same sense...i know that he cares enough to make sure i am ok... even when i don't care...lyn