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Originally Posted by Bill3
His requests and his behaviors are unreasonable.
Unfortunately, he will continue to ask until you consistently say no.
You must always say no to unreasonable requests. If you say yes even once, he will learn from that and continue to ask.
Have you studied psychology? If you have, or want to look into it, recall that giving intermittent reinforcement makes it very difficult to stop an undesired behavior.
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I agree with you Bill3, thank you so much for your input. I need to be as consistent as possible enforcing my boundaries. Since this guy has seen me already as someone who can give for the sake of giving, even with just a few tasks, I may need to start slacking off.
I have started studying psychology. Since joining PC and developing some anxiety symptoms, I have also developed an interest in researching their root cause (ie why people behave in a way we consider undesirable), and relating to others' similar struggles with people who are clingy or power-seeking. But I will continue my quest!