Good thread Kathy. I can learn a lot. of the uncle by marriage who is sweet as can be and made a comment about a (n-----) leading new York. Poor daughter was stunned and of course could not correct him. She recognized that here, where I live it would never be accepted to say such a thing. But, how does a little 20 year old with anxiety and health issues talk back to that elder? It won't change him but might cause family strife. Maybe she should write him now that she is home from vacation. Dear John, I felt embarrassed when you used the n word to describe the new mayor of NY. I wish that you would not us that language and look into your heart and see that as all people some are great and some are turkeys. I don't know if she could write the letter but it would be a service well done. Anyway, it begins with us and intolerance of the language and what is said.