I have no idea what is going on with your former crush in her head but when I met my husband, I was serial dating. When he said he wanted to be with me seriously, he forbid me from talking to the guy he knew I was dating. I am afraid I let black and white thinking take over/didn't want to lose him and stopped talking to all of the guys that I had been dating. I didn't handle it with much finesse. I didn't even give much explanation--not answering messages left on my answering machine (this was before cell phones) and not answering my condo door when these men knocked! It didn't feel right but I felt sort of paralyzed. Plus, I think I just liked how my husband could reign me in because I can be so out of control sometimes. I think I picked him because I liked being bossed around!! I probably needed a therapist way back then. Who knows what is going on in this girls head or what her relationship is like? Funny thing is that I had nothing against the boys that I turned my back on. This might not be about you but I know it still hurts.

Sorry you are struggling.