So I spent all of last night reading about different personality disorders, and the only one that comes close to fitting is borderline, BUT he doesn’t have a trail of damaged relationships in his past. He’s maintained relationships with his two best friends for 26 years! He’s never transparently manipulative either. It just doesn’t seem to fit. Maybe there just isn’t a good category for him? But what is it that is happening to him when I look into his eyes and don’t see my husband in there anymore?