Hi Lalaladida7. I feel for what you are going through. Your husband certainly does have something going on. However, it sounds like you are desperately seeking people's agreement with you on a bipolar diagnosis for your husband. I'm afraid all I can suggest is to maybe seek a second opinion for your husband. Is he willing to see a different psychiatrist? If a second psychiatrist is not sure, or doesn't believe your husband has bipolar disorder, you might want to get even more details why they think that.

Quitting alcohol would certainly help your husband. If for no other reason, it can make it easier for a psychiatrist to make a firmer diagnosis. It's possible that your husband is drinking more than you know. Hiding drinking is very common. He doesn't even have to look drunk to have alcohol in his system.