hi. go to 2 psychiatrists, get 3 opinions/diagnoses. true story.

they also tend to ignore how prescribed drugs affect people, unless they want to take them off of something. so a doctor might give your husband adderall, then a doctor who doesn't want him on adderall will blame it on the amphetamine. see what im saying here?

i think people use "personality disorders" to demonize some peope, and i think its turning into a modern day witch hunt. "he's a narcissist! narc!" or "oh, she's so crazy borderline! watch out!"

my personal advice...focus more on your husband and what he does that makes your marriage rough, less on labels, 'expert opinions,' etc. just my 2 cents. :-)