I don't understand this post Unaluna. Having an affair does not make a poster an abuser. Nor does struggling with impotence or desiring more sex from a partner who has decided the marriage will be sexless and refuses to discuss it. these are some examples of posts I have read where some people respond in cruel ways. I read the community guidelines regarding rapists and pedophiles. I was not referring to those people. i am aware that they are not supposed to post on PC because many people on PC have been victims of rape and child abuse.

Surely you are not likening rape or pedophilia to a spouse having an affair or a sexual problem between a husband and wife. I assume you are not and perhaps my post just wasn't specific enough though i thought I was quite clear.