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Originally Posted by DocJohn
This should come as no surprise, as it's in the community guidelines that every member must agree to before becoming a member of the site. (If you don't read them, that's on you, not us.) Specifically:
Obviously, it's up to an individual member to understand whether this may apply to their situation or not. Not everyone who is cheated on feels like they were abused, so that's a gray area (and we have many, many threads over the years from people who've cheated on someone).
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Thanks for elaborating DocJohn. Interesting point about the gray area of how a person feels about infidelity. Someone was unfaithful to me at one point in my life; I would never call that abuse but that's me. When I did therapy, my psychologist took time to explain the difference between being hurt by someone and being abused by them. I think that's an important distinction which often gets lost. Though that is in no way a reference to the many abuse survivors on PC. In my own life, I have experienced both: abuse and hurts.
I was thinking that if someone contemplating an affair, or struggling in the midst of one, could post on PC and receive support they may be more likely to find the help they need in order to make different choices. However, if they are shamed, perhaps they will simply return to a silent and troubled double-life?