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Originally Posted by BudFox
For me what had to be reckoned with was that the other person in this "relationship" was not invested in it. She was there to collect income and to get some needs gratified and to further her career. It was a fabricated relationship with no legs. Most of the drama was in my head.
These things can evaporate in an instant, because one person sees the relationship as disposable. And meanwhile, in some cases, the other person has everything riding on it. That kind of asymmetry is usually poisonous. But therapists will tell you it's safe and healing and all the rest of it. And yet everywhere online where therapy is discussed you see the same stories of desperate clients being taken out like the trash.
Not everyone will be so nihilistic about it, but I find comfort in shredding all the BS and dealing with reality.
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I understand that you might feel that way and many Ts might think the relationship is disposable, but I don’t agree that it has to be that way and I don’t believe my T disposed me or the relationship. I think it was a professional relationship and she couldn’t help me when I crossed her boundary as a professional objective therapist. I don’t want to argue, but I feel like I needed to respond to your post because that is a thought/idea/concept that once would have been really triggering (and still is a little, TBH). However, I’m trying really hard to see the gray in the situation and not be so black and white about therapy, the therapeutic relationship, and my termination. She didn’t dispose of me, she said goodbye and it was really hard for her.