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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
I'm sorry you're dealing with this. It seems clear to me that your H is jealous of and/or feels threatened by your T--like, fears he will make you stronger and stand up for yourself more, for example. And he's trying to control you by not even allowing a blanket in the house. Out of curiosity, what would your H do if you stood up to him, and said, "No, I'm going to work on it at home"? Would you be under any sort of physical danger? If so, then I wouldn't do that. If not...maybe that's something to talk about with T, being able to tell your H "This is my project, and I'm going to work on it at home."
Also, I agree that making the lap pad sounds like good self-care.
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I agree with all of this. I do understand, from other things you've written, that you live with a controlling man and apparently you are not interested in changing that. Certainly that's okay.
But I think the therapeutic issue here is how much you share with your H about therapy when it clearly backfires on you at least some of the time. Enmeshment between spouses, or other people, can be very destructive to individuals. I think you need to work on psychological separation around just therapy with your spouse. There is no need to fill him in on what you are doing therapeutically, when your T is out of town, and what your therapy is about. If you want to bring him to therapy again that's your choice. But I'd suggest you think about and talk openly with your T about putting up some appropriate and necessary boundaries that protect your therapeutic space and your therapeutic process.
Having trust in your T is at least partly about protecting the intimacy between you and him. How can that be possible when you're spilling it out to your H, who then doesn't rally to encourage and support you, but controls and undermines you?