Sunrise wrote: "When a child has grown up with NO boundaries and NO support, they become insecure as adults. Sometimes this can manifest in a person who is too self reliant and then does not know how to deal with the availability of support or the boundaries surrounding it. They do not know when they need support because they do not know what support is. There is no lived experience to draw from."

yup - this is where i often fall in. I mean, sometimes i know i am in pain and i don't want to be... but when t asks me what i need, i answer, "need?! why would i have needs? i've got everything under control." and then one of her eyebrows goes up.