Krazibean,

I would say the opposite is true. Transference is a fancy word for real. It's human nature to use our real experiences over and over again. All it means is that we transfer what we learned (emotionally) into a present day interaction. It happens all the time. So, in interactions with our therapist, we recreate those experiences we had with our parents (and others). It is through this transference that we heal. Yes, as
Sunny says the current relationship is real. And the hope is to bring more and more of the present to the table through an awareness of patterns from the past. So, think of it as you wish, but don't dismiss the possibility that you could be bringing old stuff with you.

Peace