I'm sorry you're dealing with this. It seems clear to me that your H is jealous of and/or feels threatened by your T--like, fears he will make you stronger and stand up for yourself more, for example. And he's trying to control you by not even allowing a blanket in the house. Out of curiosity, what would your H do if you stood up to him, and said, "No, I'm going to work on it at home"? Would you be under any sort of physical danger? If so, then I wouldn't do that. If not...maybe that's something to talk about with T, being able to tell your H "This is my project, and I'm going to work on it at home."


Also, I agree that making the lap pad sounds like good self-care.