I’m torn about this.

On one hand, I think you have every right to have your project in the house and you should be able to work on it whenever you want.

On the other, as the husband in this situation, I’d be bothered. You talk about needing to be close to another man and having him nurture you. Longing. The item is a blanket - an intimate item. Possibly used to lay down. I think this would be difficult for most men to digest. I get what your therapist is trying to do, but even reading this as an outsider, I’m uncomfortable. I can see how the actual object is upping the intensity of your husband’s jealous feelings and underdtand why he wouldn’t want it around.

I am fortunate that my therapist was a woman. I had strong feelings for her (maternal) which my husband could accept on some level. If the strong feelings were towards a male, no matter what kind of feelings, it would have created marital issues. I think there’s a whole other aspect of therapy that can be hard for the ‘excluded spouses’, regardless of gender. For me, therapy did create an emotional rift as my attention shifted to my therapist. My husband and I are still okay, but therapy can have a destructive side to relationships as well.

I guess my only recommendation would be to tread gently around your husband. I think this dynamic with your therapist and the treatment plan would be hard for a lot of men.