Thanks Cool. Yes, my past experiences and disappointments together with a very long wait to see this new therapist affects how I feel about her.
The tissues were only one part in what I reacted about. She almost never smiled and she wasnīt caring, like asking me something like "did your trip here go well?" or similar. Also, she started and ended the session in the exact minute although I had said during the session that I feel rejected if a therapist needs to end the session exactly on set time.
She didnīt say anything nice at the end like "have a nice weekend" but just a lame handshake and a goodbye. I've cried about it all several times since yesterday.
I totally agree she and I canīt get to know each other during one session only but this was a matter of her attitude towards me and how she treated me.
Iīve learned from all different counselors and sessions Iīve been in that you canīt change a therapist or ask for things like "can you be more like this or that". Itīs devestating to me to go through this after I now waited for so long to see her.
Hugs back to you.
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Originally Posted by coolibrarian
SarahSweden,
You have had so many disappointments with therapists in the past, it makes sense (at least to me) that with only one session with a new therapist, you found her to be cold and distant. But maybe you are expecting too much? You and she can't get to know one another in only 1 session. That stuff about the tissues seems a bit weird, but what if she's cool, distant, and weird, and just so happens that she is the therapist that you need, not the one you necessarily want? I'd try a few more sessions with her, before you make up your mind. Kram.
Cool
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