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Old May 04, 2019, 08:52 AM
SarahSweden SarahSweden is offline
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Thanks. Yes, I agree to my image of her, which was already partly negative due to a phone call I had with her earlier on and also looking at her therapist profile page, was affected by the confirmation bias.

But on the other hand Iīve now seen so many therapists and counselors, I know not everything is a matter of self-examination but just part of a "bad fit" or different theoretical convictions.

Itīs not that I think thereīs only one place for the kleenex but what signals "hidden" kleenex send. There was a large window sill with a lot of space and she chose to put that little box behind the curtain and not telling me about it until I had already began to cry. To me, thatīs not considerate.

I canīt draw conslusions about her as a whole person only by looking to this "kleenex issue" but it though tell something about her attitude towards clients. Also, Iīve never before met with a therapist or a counselor who "hid" the kleenex like this.


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Originally Posted by Anne2.0 View Post
I think at some point, especially when the same issues reappear with people in your life and your reactions to them, it can be helpful to examine the connections between what people say and do and how you interpret that. People operate with a "confirmation bias" where we take in selective information that confirms what we already think. For me, and especially when my PTSD symptoms were more active, my assumptions and interpretations boxed me in to the same old, same old. Being free of that, and relating to people from a place of openness and at least an attempt to attune to what they are communicating rather than my distortions of it, was helpful to me. I'm not really there entirely, it's still an issue for me. But IMO, concluding that where someone puts the tissue box is some huge thing about who they are is creating drama that just doesn't exist. It's just an object, and the number of places where it could conceivably be located are enormous. There is no one right place to put it. I think it's wacky to think that where you think it should go is the only reasonable way to do things.