I'm pretty spontaneous about it, so I'll state things as the thoughts and feelings arise. You're so cute, I want to snuggle with you. When you said that, I felt excited inside like a little girl seeing her father. It feels like I have a powerful magnet inside of me that pulls me to you and it's so incredibly intense. I felt alone and afraid, and thought of you and wondered what it would be like if you were by my side...etc.

I guess I'm thinking mostly about positive feelings, especially feelings of affection and need here that include transference feelings-that's not really connectness is it, since that is one sided? In that case, the times when we have dialogue concerning certain situations and patterns, where we both provide input or analysis and agree on the final conclusion, particularly if it is insightful and helps me move forward. There's a feeling of connectness and contentness about the relationship that I really appreciate. Figuring things out together, for my well-being, and arriving at insightful conclusions that help me be a better person and have a better life. Things that highlight our positive shared purpose and goals-our alliance-are the most connected moments, I think.