Thanks. Yes, I still suffer from that termination and I agree that therapist didnīt kept boundaries as she should have.
But all the time up until the termination I really liked her and that she didnīt keep too strict boundaries. Besides giving me more sessions than allowed she didnīt cross any boundaries even if the extention of the number of sessions per se of course ended badly.
I donīt see being flexible about the session time, keeping it between say 45-50 minutes as crossing boundaries. I donīt mean this current therapist should give me many more minutes every session but going the other way and "watching the clock" is not productive either.
Sometimes a session can end within 45 minutes, sometimes youīre in the middle of something and then adding some more minutes is just to show some caring.
It also reflects the therapistīs view upon therapy and Iīve never wanted a psychoanalytical therapist but it seems the one I now see does therapy within that orientation.
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Originally Posted by susannahsays
I seem to recall that you struggled all the more with your last therapist when she terminated due to her poor boundaries. By poor boundaries, I am specifically referring to her allowing the situation to get beyond her control regarding your sessions. She kept working with you knowing that she wasn't supposed to since you had exceeded the session limit, and it ended up hurting you due to the abrupt termination. I would remember that when you are wishing this therapist would go beyond the bounds of your session time. Spending more time is not evidence that somebody will be there for you when you need them to be, or that they care "enough" to make sure you don't get hurt. I understand needing to wrap up, but that can also be done within the allotted time.
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