I have separated with my husband of 16 years who left me for another woman. After a year they got separated and came back but I was so angry with him that I moved out and live with another guy. He then left to his own country and am staying with that new guy and my son(with my ex husband). However my ex keeps in touch with his son telling him he wants to come back but that it depends on his mommy, me. My new live in boyfriend is a married guy with 5 children and one illegitimate son of 2 months. When we got involved, I told him to go back to his family but he said he already planned to leave whenever he got a chance and that he already told the wife well before we met. They have issues before we met but he doesn't have a home so now living in mine. He provides financial support for his children despite his low income so most of our expenses fall on me. My exhusband is also waiting for me to pay for his plane tickets. My family wants me to get back together with my ex because of our son. They said this new guy will eventually go back to his family. The new guy is so high tempered and has He keeps contact with his eldest son who works at the same company. When I asked him if he is planning to go back, he said it depends on whether I could love his children. Which one to choose for the best?Am so mixed up I don't know which one I love more. We have been separated with my ex for 3 years but in contact online several times a year. I am now staying with the new guy for 5 months. I feel used financially by both of them even though they said they love me.