My T has always given me unrestricted access to him via phone, email or text when he's on vacation, or any other time for that matter. I've always told him that I won't contact him when he's vacationing bc this is his time away.

We went through a time last October when we talked about attachment - T was going to be gone 3 weeks. I was supposed to see another T (sub-T) during that time and in our "meet and greet" appt. to see if I felt comfortable with sub-T, he asked if I was attached to my T. I said, yes. Then sub-T asked if my T was attached to me...? That threw me. I said, "It's a professional relationship."

The take-away when I told my T what the sub-T asked was T told me that, of course, he was attached to me. Eventually, we had to get into the psychological definition of attachment for me to understand why T would feel attached to me. I think most or some of us don't think our Ts feel attachment in the same way we do. It's an intense, emotional, personal, though hopefully, professional relationship.

It helps my T to hear from me at the time I'm feeling or going through something instead of waiting to hear about it in our next appt. when emotions and details can be forgotten or diluted.