From outsiders perspective it looks like you two just aren’t a good match and he really doesn’t want to be married. Since you keep pushing, he pretty much finds excuses why he can’t marry. Him threatening suicide is absolutely bizarre.

One other thing strikes me odd is that he, a grown man, finds perspective of living with parents rent free as a great prospect. It’s so out there I can’t wrap my mind around. He sounds like bad marriage material to me. He might be nice enough guy but not to marry.

Now I had to comment that his lack of desire for lavish wedding isn’t an indication of lack of commitment. I am married to “the one” but I had zero desire to have any kind of big wedding. Mostly because we were both married before. People don’t typically do big weddings second time around.

Weddings are just ceremonies, marriage is a commitment. focusing on having big wedding just seems to cloud other issues that you two have. Big wedding has zero importance

Why can’t you tell him how you feel about moving? If my husband said he wants to move to a city/area/town that I don’t want to live in, no way I’d be quiet. He needs to know you don’t want to move

Honestly you’ve been having same issues with this man for a long time. Going by what you share you’ve been with him for two years and you tried to convince him to make commitment, now you are in the same spot where you started. You can’t make people commit to you. They either do or they don’t. He just doesn’t want to commit to you.

People don’t change, in the meanwhile time goes by while you could be already dating or marrying the right man. If you only stop pursuing this one. I’d not waste anymore time.

Good luck