@Anne2.0 T knows the one time H got in my face I put H into the wall. T is knowledgeable about domestic violence. T also knows I am very open by nature so to suddenly be secretive would be a red flag. The buggiest thing both T and I have in mind is that the most dangerous time for a woman is when the man believes she is leaving... so until we know for sure what I am doing we are keeping things normal.