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For me... I was helped by shifting the focus from EVENTS (that may or may not have happened and probably didn't precisely as I remember them because that is the nature of memory) to my EXPERIENCES. The painful experiences... And learning how to cope with them and hold them and experience them and integrate them and soothe them now...

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I think I understand and will try to switch focus. I think I sometimes feel like I have to prove that I deserve to be listened to and helped. If nothing "horrific" happened then I should just shut up and deal with it on my own. I am slowly learning that I matter and my experiences are worthy of validation.