T and I both know that the insecurity I belongs to H and there is nothing we can do about it. However, by being open if he chooses to look at things clearly he can see everything just as it is.
I was able to finish the comfort item last night and H was surprized this morning to find it still sitting on the table. He asked “didn’t you plan on sleeping with it?” To which he got a GROSS! So he is catching on... hopefully he will start to get what this is for and that it is not a threat to him. Again, not saying he can’t be a controlling jerk... but he seems to be opening up to this