I agree with this. What many people are describing above sounds like a healthy internal process, but it doesn't sound like the more traditional/common definitions of "forgiveness," at least the ones I'm familiar with. So it seems like we're arguing about concepts, but mostly I think we're arguing about semantics.

Based on the definitions I'm still finding in dictionaries and on-line, and the cultural and religious connotations of the term forgiveness, I'm in no hurry to adopt it to describe this internal process, but I understand that for others it has evolved to mean this.