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Kiya said:
Sunrise wrote: "When a child has grown up with NO boundaries and NO support, they become insecure as adults. Sometimes this can manifest in a person who is too self reliant and then does not know how to deal with the availability of support or the boundaries surrounding it. They do not know when they need support because they do not know what support is. There is no lived experience to draw from."

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Kiya, that pearl of wisdom came from MissCharlotte! It paints a picture of me too. I had no support, I am overly self-reliant, I never learned to form boundaries, I don't know how to recognize or express my needs. Still working on all of that.... Good luck to you. Try in therapy to tell your T just one simple need. (Maybe something concrete, like, "it is too hot in here, can I open the window?") Practice in therapy, apply in real life?